Betrayal and sexual addiction
Discovering a betrayal can feel like the floor gave way. Struggling with something you can't stop can feel just as lonely. Either way, there is help here, and you don't have to decide everything today.
Which one is you?
Pick the one that fits. Both are welcome here, and both deserve care.
If you've been betrayed
Finding something you can't unsee is a gut punch. Your body may go straight into fight, flight or freeze: racing heart, no sleep, no appetite, or numb shock. That's a normal response to a real injury.
- Pause before you act. You don't have to decide the future of your marriage today.
- Name what you feel. Shock, rage, grief, shame, fear. All of it makes sense.
- Get support for yourself first. Not only for the marriage. For you.
- Don't carry it alone. Isolation makes everything heavier.
If you're the one struggling
Sexual addiction often starts as a way to numb something: stress, loneliness, pain. It promises relief, and the relief always wears off. The shame afterward pushes you into hiding, and hiding feeds the cycle.
- Hiding keeps it alive. Recovery starts when it comes into the light.
- Look at what it's numbing. The behavior is often the trick, not the root.
- Accountability helps. People who care enough to tell you the truth keep you on track.
- You are not beyond change. It's never too late to move in a better direction.
Recovery happens in community
Connection is powerful against addiction. Supportive people can short-circuit the pull of the old habits. And for the one betrayed, a group of people who understand can carry what no one else can.
Partner Betrayal Trauma Group
For women betrayed by a spouse or partner through infidelity, sex or porn addiction. Online, Wednesdays at 8:30 PM. Registration required.
Freedom groups: sexual addiction
For men: honest sharing, biblical encouragement and accountability. Tuesdays at 6:15 AM in Augusta, or Wednesdays at 6:30 PM in Grovetown. Registration required.
How the Hope Method helps
Every provider here works from the same method. Our team includes a certified Sexual Recovery and Partner Betrayal Trauma Coach.
Tolerate uncomfortable emotions
Facing the shock, shame and grief instead of numbing or exploding.
Rethink unhelpful thoughts
Catching thoughts like “I'm worthless,” “It's my fault” or “I'll never change.”
Identify the person you want to be
Getting clear on who you want to be, as a person and, if you choose it, as a spouse. That picture guides the hard decisions.
Change unhelpful behaviors
Concrete steps: boundaries, honesty, new habits, one day at a time.
Keep connected to healthy community
Safe people, accountability and groups, so nobody walks this alone.
“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.”
2 Corinthians 5:17 (ESV)
Where faith fits
Betrayal and addiction both carry deep shame, and shame keeps people hiding. Faith can be part of coming into the light. If you'd like prayer or scripture in your sessions, your provider will gladly include them.
If you wouldn't, it won't come up. Everyone is welcome here.
What "spiritually informed" meansGetting started
The practical details, and the questions people ask most.
- Cost
- $75For 50 minutes, paid at the appointment. The same for individuals, couples and families.
- Insurance
- Not acceptedNo superbills. Cash, check, card, and HSA or FSA cards all work.
- Where
- In person or telehealth3231 Washington Rd., or from home for most concerns.
- Getting in
- Usually this weekEvery provider is taking new clients. We try to see people the week they reach out.
Can we come as a couple?
Yes, when you're both ready. Many people start on their own first, especially right after a discovery.
Is this confidential?
Yes. What you share in counseling stays between you and your provider, within the limits your provider will explain at your first session.
Do I have to decide whether to stay?
No. You don't have to decide the future of your marriage to get help now.
Will faith be part of my sessions?
Only if you want it to be. Our providers share a Christian worldview, and if you'd like prayer or scripture in your sessions, ask and your provider will gladly include it. If you wouldn't, it won't come up. Everyone is welcome here, whatever they believe.
What happens in the first session?
It's a conversation about what you need, not an intake. Afterwards you decide whether to keep going, with no commitment either way. If you continue, a few forms and some homework come through the client portal.
Can I do this by telehealth?
Yes, for most concerns. You join from the SimplePractice Client Portal app or a web browser.
Start wherever you are
Book a first conversation on your own or together, or start with a group.
Book an appointment
Individual or couples sessions, in person on Washington Road or by telehealth. Choose “I'm a new client” when you book.
Find a group
Partner Betrayal Trauma for women (online), and Freedom groups for men in Augusta and Grovetown. All hosted with Warren Church.
Still unsure? Call the office at 762.328.4673.